Confession #1

I am afraid that no one will read this blog.


There.  I said it.  I have been sitting on this idea for a few months now.  I purchased the domain name and created the WordPress account.  I have dreamt big dreams about what this blog could be and how many people it could reach.  I have longed to create a place where I (and you) can be open and honest about this greatbighardimportanttiringincredible job called “motherhood”.

Because why?

Because I’m tired of everywhere I look making me feel like a failure as a mom.  I’m tired of hopping on Pinterest to find a recipe and walking away feeling like oh my word I should be doing so much more but I can barely keep these people alive much less sew them clothes made from old t-shirts and pillowcases and feed them meals from scratch that look like a work of art and build their bedroom furniture out of scrap wood all while keeping the house clean and decorated with perfectly manicured nails that have that cute little “accent nail” on one finger.  stupid accent nails.

I’m tired of reading other mommy bloggers that are all like “tra la la my life is perfect and my kids are geniuses and everything we do is homemade and from scratch and don’t you wish you were us.”  If that’s you, well, good for you.  But it’s not me.  And I have a feeling it’s not A LOT of  moms.  Cause when I take time to really look into the eyes of the moms I come in contact with- when I listen to their stories and hear their hearts and their heartaches, it always comes back to this: motherhood is flipping hard.  

So I’m done just sitting back and pretending that we should all have to act like we have it all together.  Because let’s be honest- no one does.  (Except for that dang Pioneer Woman.  I think she’s an alien or something.)  I say it’s time to make a safe place where we can be open and real and raw and vulnerable and honest about how crazy and wonderful and exhausting and exhilarating this mommy thing is.  Let’s lay our confessions out in the open and laugh and cry together.  Let’s create a community of honest moms who throw off the facade and choose to embrace one another with our beautiful flaws and imperfections.

I promise I won’t judge you if you won’t judge me.

Are you ready?  Will you join me here in this safe place?  Cause we are about to get down and dirty in the realness of motherhood.  It may not always be pretty, but it will be freeing.  

Let’s do this!

7 thoughts on “Confession #1

  1. Keri says:

    I’m blessed. I have 3 beautiful girls, a loving, hardworking husband. A roof over my head and a car to get me from a A to B. But today (the day before Mother’s Day), I cried in the shower. My kids are crazy, mess makers and I’m tired. My house is getting smaller by the day because of the stuff we have. I am desperate to move and we can’t. I try to go through it and get rid of it, but I feel like I can’t get ahead. I just go in circles it seems and I am frustrated. I know it’s a season and it will pass. I feel bad for feeling ungrateful. I know there are some that don’t have what I do. But this is my reality.

    • confessionsofanhonestmom says:

      I can’t tell you how many times I’ve cried in the shower. It’s like therapy and a spa session rolled into one! Hang in there, mama. You’re doing an amazing job! Just remember that the imperfections we see, our kids are usually oblivious too. When they know they are loved, your job is done. 🙂

  2. Jen says:

    Oh Heather!! This is awesome! Thanks for putting this together….this mom needs a place where I can just be me. With husband and I in ministry it can be difficult to find friends that don’t want something from you. Or who expect you to be a certain way. We love what we do, but it’s been a hard road at times. I love being a mom, I love being married, I love love love helping others in their relationships…brings me so much life. Just have realized this year that this amazing life we’ve chosen can be lonely at times. I am so incredibly grateful for the true friendships I have.

  3. Darby says:

    Great blog Heather! So glad that you are taking this project on. It is about time that someone is truly honest about what motherhood is. I also have had days were I needed a good cry in the shower. It helps to have a place where us girls can let our hair down and be honest about being a mom.

  4. adoptionmamablog says:

    I have the same fear & desire! Funny, I too started my blog to reach out to other mothers who are living their lives in the midst of normal chaos & breakdowns. As woman I tire of our competitive nature and look everywhere for genuine relationships. My husband always laughs, he says if you talk to the dad’s they will tell you like it is…”how are the kids?”…”Awful! They got up three times last night to pee!” Ask the wife of that said male…”how are the kids?”…”pretty good! They slept through the night last night except to pee!”

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